Though considered unimportant by most men, kissing and foreplay remains one of the most important facets of sex. We can’t emphasise enough the importance of it. You can have everything – the six figure salary, rock hard abs or eyes to die for – but if you can’t turn your woman with a kiss then the chances are that she won’t envisage spending her life with you. Click here to read the hidden benefits of kissing.
There are some things you need to keep in mind whilst kissing so that you can really turn on your partner. Believe us. It works –
Take your sweet time - Patience and perseverance is the key. Kiss her lightly on the lips, slowly. Take pauses between kisses. Look her in the eyes. Tell her you love her while kissing her. Don’t be too eager to slip in your tongue. Remember it’s not a 100 metre dash. And it’s not the way it’s done in the movies. You might be eager to get into her pants, but to use a sports metaphor you can’t go to fourth base directly from the first.
Use your words – Any romantic worth his salt knows that words can have a very powerful effect. Tell your woman you love her. Look her in the eyes while doing so and watch her melt. Whisper in her ear. Yes all of this does seem very clichéd but they became clichés for a reason.
Avoid distractions - Nothing quite kills the mood like distractions. No woman is going to forgive you, if you aren’t there totally. Switch off your cell phone. Your partner needs to be assured that at that very moment that’s the only place you want to be.
Cover the bases - Try and have maximum body contact whilst kissing. It doesn’t matter what position you’re in – erect, semi-erect or lying down – try to have your bodies as close as possible. There’s nothing that turns on a person when the line between kissing and foreplay is blurred (or is kissing and foreplay the same thing). Well it’s very confusing but the thing is make the most of it. Try to have as much surface contact as possible.
Not just about the mouth- Yeah kissing starts up there but it can still go places. The tongue is a particularly sensitive organ, more so than the fingertips and plays an important part in our gustatory senses which is linked to our sexual pleasure. Some old-fashioned cuddling wouldn’t hurt from time to time. Kiss her on the neck or all over her body. Let your tongue wander.
Foreplay for foreplay’s sake – The very term ‘foreplay’ implies that it should lead somewhere. It doesn’t have to. Sometimes leaving things at the foreplay stage can make your partner even hungrier for more.
Explore her body – Just because you’re kissing doesn’t mean that the rest of the body has to be catatonic. Use your hands and legs. Explore her back. Graze her waist. Use your legs to rub against hers. Use your imagination for god’s sake. Every woman is unique and there are numerous erogenous zones all over her body. Some of the less known ones are behind her knees, the nape of her neck, her ears, her wrists and ear lobes.
Vary your intensity – Unless your mix things up, it can get boring. Be slow and steady at times and fast and furious in others. There will be times when you won’t have too much time and some high intensity kissing can really keep things hot. Use your tongue, teeth, lower and upper lips. The mouth has so many different parts for a reason.
Be natural – There is no need to curb your natural instincts. Do what you want to do. Also there’s no need to mimic things you’ve seen on TV, movies or porn.
Keep these tips in mind the next time you’ve to kiss a girl and watch her go mad.First Published: Jul 3, 2012 at 1:11 PM