Every so often, for a woman sex is an exploratory journey with an orgasm being the destination she may or may not reach but for a man it’s a voyage that needs no direction – he knows he will reach the goal post and he does. More often than not, at least! So when you are with your man, how do you get him to slow down, take in the sights and sounds and relish every stop? With Women’s day around the corner here are a few quick tips on getting your man to hop on the train to orgasm-ville, both his and yours!
Show him the way
A man will try his best to touch you where and how he thinks feels the best. And though we appreciate them for that, it may not be work for you. But instead of going with it or telling him it doesn’t do anything for you, show him what you want. Guide him to your pleasure zones and whisper into his ears what feels good – whispering makes it sound as if you are sharing a secret and not instructing him (which will deflate his ego for sure) and he’ll try twice as hard to please you.
Slow-mo is the way to go
Once they are aroused, men simply chug ahead full speed, failing to realize that it might take you a moment to catch up with them. Get him to do a bit of foreplay and make sure he notices how much you like it. When he understands how much you enjoy it, he’ll spend a lot more time on it, getting you where you need to be – the point of no return.
Get him to experiment
When your fellow realizes that a set of moves works well on getting you hot and bothered, he won’t hesitate to repeat them the next time. And again. And yet again. Break the routine. The next time he’s about to pull the same move on you, gently suggest, “How about trying this today?” The element of surprise will pump up the levels of excitement for both of you and make the experience unforgettable.
Speak your mind
Some men try tricks they see in movies – like kissing your neck or nibbling on your ear lobe – but for some women, chewing on the ear lobe is just not a turn on! Instead of saying, “Eww, don’t do that!” say “Can I show you something I like?” For him, it’s the equivalent of dirty talk – something no man can resist. Not only will he appreciate you not telling him off, but will love you for telling him what you like – it’s the ultimate turn on.
No one needs a stronger ego boost than a man in bed. You can ask them but they’ll all deny it but it’s the most important thing for a man to know he’s all you can ever ask for. So when he does something right, let him know. Moaning helps, of course. You could also casually compliment him after you’re done by saying, “I loved it when you…”. It’s just the thing he needs to give you more excitement in the sack.
The Start and Stop trick
Let’s face it – it takes little effort to arouse a guy and once he is there, it’s only a matter of time before he reaches the climax – but it may not be the same time for you. So once he gets off you are left, for the lack of a better term, high and dry. Try this: the next time, just as he is about to climax, ask him to pull out. You could try this on yourself too – if you feel like you are nearing an orgasm, stop right there. Start off once more; this stop and go trick will build up the sexual arousal to give you both a mind-blowing orgasm!
So follow these quick tips and make sure the pleasure is all yours, or at least more than his!First Published: Mar 6, 2012 at 12:10 PM