
October 10 is World Mental Health Day
It is early morning, and inside a single-storey building’s basement, a man picks up one of four ringing telephones. He asks the caller in a deep baritone: “But what went wrong?” and steers the person towards an hour-long conversation.
It was a depressed caller, he says later. The man, who uses the pseudonym Zaki Shah, is from the hush-hush world of ‘talk therapy’ where people feeling depressed or suicidal find refuge in the voices of counsellors sitting far away and working at odd hours.
The headquarters of this 24-hour 14-state helpline, 022-25706000 run by St. Stephen’s Hospital and Emmanuel Hospital Association, revealed a world of despair and rescue where identities are withheld as new hopes are born. The helpline, started in October last year, has seen an increase in the density of calls from Delhi, Punjab, Haryana and Uttar Pradesh and even the northeast. Also, more youths from small towns now share their woes on the phone. ”In small towns, visiting a psychiatrist is not a viable option due to stigma and availability. So they find refuge in helplines,” says Shah. The busiest months are February and March when calls a day go up to 100. The reasons: exams and stressed students and parents, say the counsellors.
According to a 2009 National Crime Records Bureau report, 15 people committed suicide in the country every hour. The World Health Organisation says depression, one of the causes of suicide, will be the second-most prevalent medical condition in the world by 2020.
The helpline has nine counsellors working in three shifts, and all they have are computers and telephones. Available on 1860-266-2345, the helpline has received around 2,000 calls so far. ”To maintain confidentiality, we cannot reveal our or the caller’s identity to any other person. In telephonic counselling, it is plain talk therapy working,” a counsellor who uses the pseudonym Vidhi Sharma tells IANS. ”I am not even supposed to tell you my name. It is just the caller who should know about me,” she says. ”On telephone, we have to catch the callers’ non-verbal cues also. Unlike face-to-face counselling, we cannot analyse the body language. Only tones and words are available to us,” says Sharma. The counsellors, mostly with a masters degree in psychology, come trained for the job.
Sharma talks about the “invisible equation” created by these helplines. Overcoming the fear of being judged is the biggest advantage to the distressed seeking help, she says. The team of counsellors has mastered the art of pulling back depressed callers into life. However, the task is tough when they have to deal with violent callers or elderly who have lost hope. ”It is a challenge to calm down violent callers who first need medical help. Our first priority is to buy time from people who are on the verge of committing suicide,” says Shah, who is a theatre artiste when not counselling. ”After a detailed analysis of the caller, we assess if the person needs to be referred to a psychiatrist. Certain calls can leave us emotionally drained too,” he says, adding that the callers just want to be heard.
The helpline maintains a database of local psychiatry centres and NGOs that help patients. It does not end here. Counsellors also follow up on each person who called for help. Coming against the popular perception that “men don’t cry”, nearly 70 percent of callers are men and they cry, the counsellors say. ”The problems of men and women are alike — work-related stress, relationship issues and loneliness. Our patriarchal society has created a mental conditioning that says boys are stronger than girls,” says a counsellor with the pseudonym Tanvi John.
The callers are mostly from the 16 to 30 age group, says Shah. In the course of these conversations, some callers become friends of the counsellors. ”It takes an hour to gauge what is on the mind of a caller. Soon, they become regular callers and update us on their lives. It is satisfying to hear them doing well,” says Shah as he rushes to attend a call.
Helpline: 022-25706000
Source: IANS
First Published: Oct 10, 2012 at 12:18 PM
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I am so thankful to the Counselor who talked me through the danger signs. God Bless her for hearing me out. I don’t think anyone should even consider this step. Please think about the loved ones you leave behind…you Mother, Your Father and your Siblings….In some cases a Loving Wife (Who I still love and who left me at the most trying time in my life), and kids, please think about them too! Your actions will have consequences on all that you leave behind and lead them down the same path if they think like you. Trust me, have faith in God, and mostly in yourself. If you find that you are slipping, Call this number again, or walk out of the place you are in…walk around people, do something like maybe ask a beggar if he wants food, sometime giving something to someone who is worse than you will make you forget about your problems. This moment will pass. Just somehow let that moment pass…then surround yourself with people. It’s your mind playing tricks with you, don’t fall for it. The one thing you must do at this moment is don’t think about the person who caused you this. It’s all Karma and it’s playing itself out. One day soon you will find the money, the love and the friends, but how will they all find you if you’re not there? Chance toh do na yaar! Please. If you consider me as a someone who cares for you. Don’t waste yourself. Trust yourself and you will get it all!
The counselor was really helpful. They listened to me and talked to me about various things, making me calmer and feel better about myself. Best thing in India after so many years.
going through a very bad phase..thinking of killing myslef….can u ppl help
i called but centre sayS can not be connect why i need help seriously
I read a lot on depression because i felt i am in depression and i jus wanted to make sure if nt smthing else. I just want some help . I dnt want to sucide at all . Bt i feel broken down since some time .
I’m from bombay 18 yrs.
Could u help me please
i want to commit suicide because of getting sexual harrasment
thsi is teh saddest helpline which cud exist . they elevate symptoms not help at all.
I’v got to know about you from “Youth in bc” …..I would like to sent my mails and the replies of one of the counsellor fron “youth in bc” so that you get a better idea of my problem ……………………..so, please sent me your email id so that i can sent those mails to you as well. (Iv got your helpline no. also but i can’t call you…).Please, I need help……
sir, namaskar,
sir can you tell me about illusions &a thought about any thing which stuck in any mind . it could be about ” mann ko kisi baat ka takleaf pahuchana, any thing which is insulting for someone, hate & many other thing is there”